For some years I have understood it is wise to connect with an expert voice when I am facing a challenging scenario. Unfortunately it is difficult to track down an expert sometimes. I have a greater need for wisdom than I have experts near me.

Sometimes we can help ourselves though - usually we are wiser than we give ourselves credit for. Try this: record yourself as you openly talk yourself through your situation. You can then listen to the recording to pick up on the bigger "conversation". You will notice insights to the challenge you are facing.

You will become your own expert - at least as far as great listening skills go.
If your difficulty is big enough you can do two sessions of recording and rhen listening. As you try this you will find you will gain new insights you couldn't see before.